Yesterday’s Post – More about Poison
Most of you know and read my other blogs so you know that my mom and I are very toxic when together. My husband and mother are never in the same place at the same time if they can help it. That said, I am married to one of the best men on the planet. But, because he doesn’t do what my mom wants him to do on her time demands (or mine for that matter), she is very difficult when it comes to him.
And, before my kids were born, she was adamant that I let my husband discipline our kids and that I not step-in and baby the kids. But now, she doesn’t like the way my husband handles the kids. My husband doesn’t like the way my mother handles them and neither of them like the way I handle the kids.
What about me? I think that my kids are going to need some counseling when the three of us are finished with them. My parents did a number on me. Honestly, they fought, they disagreed and they basically acted as if they hated one another. They divorced when I was 4.
I see my counselor and I know that I have to do what I have to do for myself. But the fact remains, I don’t want my kids to have these issues. How difficult could it be to be good to your kids and do the right thing and expect the others who are suppose to love them to do the same?
June 24th, 2009 at 9:29 am
It’s tricky when everyone has a different opinion on how to raise kids. I haven’t dealt with too much of that, but it usually comes down to my husband and I being on the same page. It’s harder for people to argue w/two people vs. one. I also rely on my guy a lot to create a buffer between me and my fam. Although he has his opinions and frustrations w/them, in most cases, he can be the neutral, friendly party, which has a contagious effect on the rest of us when we’d otherwise be a bit more contentious. It helps gatherings go a lot smoother, even if the big picture is still not ideal.