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Valentines Day Pressure

by Sandra Williams

Alone and Deserate:Sanja GjeneroIf you let it, Valentines Day can really stress you out. The media over commercializes the day trying to convince you to buy everything to “prove� your love. My husband has always been good for a card but with all the built up expectations there can be let downs.

I remember one year I bought these pretty little heart candle holders that I put on a table in our bedroom. Well, my husband was tired, came home and knocked them over smashing them to bits. Whether we had those stupid candles or not is not going to make or break our marriage.

If you build it up thinking it will be the most romantic night of the year, you are bound to be let down emotionally. Ironically, the day can end up causing more problems if you let it.

What if you are single? Valentines Day can be very lonely for people who do not have a date. Try to pamper yourself instead and fight the media’s notion that you are not complete without some romantic partner.

Grab a good book, have a bath, listen to music, invite a friend over for a movie and/or light some candles. There are many things you can do for yourself and don’t have to wait for someone bearing chocolates and roses.

I do believe Valentines Day is overrated anyway. So what if someone spends a fortune on Valentines Day? Does that make them a good potential partner? No, anyone can buy a couple gifts one day out of the year. What about the rest of the year?

Spending quality time together doing things you both enjoy on a regular basis is more likely to make for a successful relationship. For all we know that woman in the office who received jewelry and a dozen roses is going home to a life of hell.


Posted in General, Holidays on January 29th, 2008

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