Mental & Emotional Health

Plenty of people become stressed and depressed in their forties but I wonder how many of them are really having a mid life crisis.

Maybe some people just want out of a marriage and decide they don’t want the responsibility of raising children or get bored of their spouse and job so run away.

Sometimes they run away with someone much younger. It seems mighty convenient that it’s almost expected and accepted that people will go through this crisis because you can always say “Oh that was because I was having a mid-life crisis.”

Does this make running off with someone half your age or abandoning your children ok? Is this something that we are supposed to simply acknowledge will happen and it’s quite alright for people to act like selfish jerks because they’re going through a mid life crisis?

Dr. Richard A. Friedman wrote an interesting article about using a mid life crisis as an excuse for bad behavior.

“The first five years of his marriage were exciting. “It was like we were dating all the time,” he recalled wistfully. But once they had a child, he felt an unwelcome sense of drudgery and responsibility creep into his life.

Being middle-aged had nothing to do with his predicament; it was just that it took him 49 years to reach a situation where he had to seriously take account of someone else’s needs, namely those of his baby son. In all likelihood, the same thing would have happened if he had become a father at 25.”(Crisis? Maybe He’s a Narcissistic Jerk, Jan.15, 2008)

I do believe people experience a mid life crisis in the sense that they question things and wonder if they should reevaluate their lives and their goals. This doesn’t always have to involve negative changes like affairs and/or drugs though and can in fact lead to positive changes.

I just don’t think it’s too productive for anyone’s relationship to say “Yeah, it’s alright if you take off, buy that motorcycle, go on drugs and trade me in for a young one with no kids. I’ll hold down the fort while you go sort things out. Have fun.”

Prevention

It’s better to catch these things before they happen by communicating and going for counseling together to avoid further harm to a family. It can work both ways and there’s plenty of run away wives as well. Perhaps some of these marriages are beyond repair anyway so someone had to have some sort of crisis to get out of it.

Encouraging the perception that most will have a mid life crisis because it’s the norm is not a good idea in my opinion because it leads many to have a handy excuse for irresponsible behavior.

Instead of simply allowing the mid life crisis to run it’s course, how about treating the depression first by exploring problems with a counselor, therapist and/or your spouse? It seems a more likely method to avoid divorce but it does take two.

Happy Valentines day all. I guess that wasn’t a very romantic post but I did actually have a wonderful dinner with my husband. I wish you all peace and happiness whether you’re single or married.

• Rena Sherwood is glad she’s single because she has apparently discovered that sex causes headaches. Check out Sex, Orgasms and Headaches for more.

Yesterday I talked at some length about things you could do to help a depressed loved one but today I’d like to take a look at self help tips for the depressed elderly population.

I have already mentioned this, but it’s so important that I feel like I have to mention it again isolation and inactivity only make depression worse in most people; the more active you are (socially, mentally, physically and spiritually), the better you will feel. Therefore, my first tip for self-help is:

>get out into the world! Don’t stay stuck in your house all day long. Go to the park, take a trip to the beauty salon (get your hair did!) or call a friend to have lunch with them. Get out!

>along the same lines, connect to others; don’t spend all your time alone. If you can’t get out to socialize, ask loved ones to come and visit you. Call people, email them, but connect to them!

>do you remember how scrapbooking used to make you so happy? Why don’t you try that again? Pick up hobbies and pasttimes that you used to enjoy and see if you still enjoy them as much!

>give your time to others. If you can get out, helping others is probably the best way to feel great about yourself. This may also combat those feelings of helplessness due to retirement. You can do something to add to the world.

>if allowed, get a pet to keep you company. Studies show that just petting animals can lower blood pressure and make people calmer.

>laugh at something! Laughter provides a definite mood booster, so tell a joke, read a joke, search for silly videos on YouTubeDigger (btw, they need a current writer for that blog if anyone is interested) and see what you can find. My favorite laugh-inducing YouTube video is below. Tell me you don’t laugh watching that!

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Yesterday’s depression without sadness seems to have hit a search engine of sorts - it’s so random which posts in which series catch people’s eyes. I’m glad, though that people are so enthusiastic about what I’m writing!

Today I’ll take a look at how to help a loved one you know with depression; there are ways, and you can do something even when that person doesn’t specifically seek your help, just offering to help them “if you want it,” will be a help to some people. For many elderly individuals, they were raised during a time when mental illness was HIGHLY stigmatized and very misunderstood. (You think we have it bad now … ask your grams about mental asylums in her day.) This stigmatization and misunderstanding may make seniors even less likely to ask for help; especially if they grew up hearing that depression wasn’t a real illness.

By offering emotional support to a senior citizen you care about, you are making a difference. Listen to them with compassion and empathy, don’t criticize their feelings but do gently point out the realities that they may be missing, try your best to offer hope to them. Also, if your loved one is willing, offer to make sure they get an accurate diagnosis of their depression, and then go with them to his/her appointments if they are willing to let you. Be their helper and let them know that they are loved, no matter what their diagnosis may be.

There are other tips for personally helping an elderly depressed loved one:
*invite your loved one out; help keep his or her mind and body active. Take walks, take an art class, go on a trip to the museum; do things that your loved one used to enjoy!
*schedule these outings (and other social activities) regularly: give your loved one something to look forward to and know that they won’t be isolated all the time! If they refuse to go out with you, gently insist … I know that I always feel better after being “forced” to go out with friends.
*plan and prepare healthy, easy to reheat meals for your loved one. This way they don’t have to worry about cooking meals and they are still getting fed well-balanced full meals (fruits, vegetables, healthy grains!).
* encourage your loved one to follow through with their treatment; depression usually recurs when treatment is stopped too soon, so help your loved one keep up with his or her treatment plan

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We’re getting towards the end of series on depression in the elderly, and today I’d like to address something that not many people realize occurs; depression without sadness.

There are quite a few people in the world (many of them elderly) who live their lives depressed, but not sad. They may, however, complain of a lack of energy, no motivation and physical problems. These physical problems and the complaints that they bring (arthritis pain increasing, headache pain becoming more frequent) may be the predominant symptom of depression in the elderly. These elderly individuals are more likely to show signs of anxiety and irritability when they don’t feel sad. These individuals may wring their hands, pace rooms, fret obsessive about money, their health or even the state of the world. You can’t tell me that you don’t know an elderly individual who always is concerned about the state of the world. They may be living with depression and not recognize it.

There are certain clues to look for in adults who don’t say that that they’re sad but they’re still living with major depression:
*unexplained and/or aggravated aches and pains - like I mentioned before maybe Gram’s arthritis is acting up continually and Gramps always has a backache, or maybe they are depressed
*hopelessness and helplessness - no positive outlook for the future is a HUGE symptom of full-blown depression, and the elderly individual feeling as though they can’t do anything is right below that
*being overly anxious or incredibly worried about things
*memory problems not associated with Alzheimer’s or another form of dementia
*loss of feelings of pleasure in previous enjoyable activities
*slowed movement, whether due to those physical ailments or just a general slowing down of an elderly individual’s mental state
*irritability above and beyond the regular “grouchy old man” state
*a lack of interest in personal care such as skipping meals, neglecting personal hygiene or purposefully forgetting medication

You will notice that NONE of these signs has anything to do with being sad, but when you look at them in a broader sense, you would immediately see depression in a person.

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Now that we’ve gone through some causes of depression in the elderly, it’s time to learn about what we should be looking for! However, first, I want to address something that someone emailed me about; the difference between grief and depression.

Grief is not depression; there is a difference. A grieving person many exhibit and experience depressive symptoms (frequent crying and profound sadness), but that doesn’t mean that they are chronically & full-blown depressed. Grief is a natural and healthy response to major losses and while there is no “set” time for grief’s end, if it doesn’t let up over time, or stops all signs of joy (laughter at jokes, enjoying a hug, appreciating nature, etc), it may be a sign of depression.

Signs & Symptoms of Depression in the Elderly
*sadness (the most obvious symptom, but you must remember to look at the situation, not just the mood)
*fatigue (moreso than normal)
*losing interest or just giving up pastimes that the elderly individual used to find enjoyable
*withdrawal from all social activities or reluctance to be with friends, leave the house, or engage in activities
*loss of appetite and therefore a loss of weight (which could be related to other things, so be sure to look at everything going on in the life of the possibly-depressed person)
*difficulty falling asleep, difficultly staying asleep, difficulty waking up in the morning, or even being overtired during the day time … essentially any sleep disturbance that didn’t used to be there
*loss of self worth - like I mentioned in previous entries, this purposeless life can cause an elderly individual to feel like a burden or like they’re worthless
*increased use of drugs (prescription and non-prescription) or an increased use of alcohol; both can be incredibly dangerous as well as exacerbate depressive symptoms
*being overly fixated on death, having suicidal thoughts or even suicide attempts

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Yesterday I finished up the general overview of elderly depression and today I’d like to start addressing some of the causes of depression in the elderly.

The significant life changes and stressors that elderly individuals face put them at high risk for chronic and full blown depression. Those at highest risk, however, are those with a personal or family history of depression, those elderly individuals with failing health, those individuals with substance abuse problems and especially those with very little social support.

On top of these influences, there are other specific causes and risk factors that may contribute to your grandfather’s depression:

>loneliness and isolation - many of our elderly population live alone; their dwindling social circle (oftentimes due to death and sometimes due to relocation) and decreased mobility (due to illnesses or loss of their drivers license) increase the amount of time that they spend alone

>a reduced “sense of purpose” - due to the reduced ability to do everyday tasks, many elderly individuals feel as though they’re not really doing anything. (I know young adults who feel this way directly out of college.) A life of purposelessness can really wear on an individual (of any age) and cause them to feel depressed.

>issues with health problems - illness, disability, chronic pain, severe pain, cognitive declines and body image disturbances (due to surgery or disease) can all lead to feelings of depression

>medications - many prescription drugs can lead to depression, sometimes triggering, not just
increasing already low-levels of depression

>being afraid - fear of death and dying, anxiety over financial problems and worries over current (or possible) health issues can increase an elderly individuals susceptibility for depression

>recent (and close) bereavement - as we age, more and more people we know are dying near us. This “nearby” deaths can definitely drive a person to feeling down and depressed.

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Continuing with my overview of depression in the elderly population, today I’d like to finish that up and then as the week progresses, we will address the causes of elderly depression along with signs & symptoms, treatments, what to do if you know a depressed elderly person, self-help for the elderly with depression and then a brief bit on dementia and Alzheimer’s and their impact on depression in the elderly.

Like I said in my previous entries on depression in the elderly, 2 million of the 35 million elderly (”elderly” is considered to be the population above 65 years old) live with full-blown depression, but a only a very small percentage get the help that they need. Many people assume (and we all know what happens when we assume) that seniors have a good reason to be depressed, or, because it is rather common, that the depression is a natural stage in aging. Isolation also leads to the lack of recognition with elderly depression. Oftentimes, physicians will concentrate solely on physical, rather than mental or emotional ailments when the elderly are at the their regular appointments. On top of all this, many depressed seniors don’t talk about their feelings or ask for help.

There are serious risks for older adults who leave their depression untreated. Physical illnesses, alcohol and prescription drug dependence (self-medicating), a higher than average mortality rate and it can even lead to suicide. It is incredibly important to watch for the warning signs & symptoms of depression and get professional help as soon as it’s noticed. With this attention, support and treatment, depressed seniors can feel better! “No one, whether they’re 18 or 80, has to live with depression.”

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Last week I mentioned that I was going to do a series on depression in the elderly population, and I’m just now getting around to it!

Many elderly individuals experience the death of a spouse, medical problems, financial troubles, and these things can all lead to depression, and lead to higher rates of depression in those who don’t have a strong support network (friends, family, coworkers even) surrounding them. This depression, however, is not a normal (or required) part of aging; in fact, more seniors (as it is with other humans) are happy with their lives even throughout big changes and troubles.

If you allow this elderly depression alone, it may prevent your grams from enjoying the life that she could have, and it’s proven to take a serious toll on grandpa’s physical health as well. However, if you learn to recognize the signs and symptoms of depression in the elderly population and then learn to help someone effectively, you may find your life (or your loved one’s life) remaining bright and cheery until the end!

Depression is a problem for many older adults and it seems to be mainly due to loss; a loss of independence, a loss of mobility, a loss of health, a loss of your life-long career and even a loss of someone you love. With these losses, it’s normal to feel sad, and even if the feelings of sadness last for months, it is considered normal. However, if you lose all hope and all joy, it’s not normal; it’s depression.

When I say “many adults,” I mean 2 million. 2 million (of the 35 million) Americans over the age of 65 live with full-blown depression according to the National Institute of Health. On top of that, there are 5 million elderly individuals who live with a less severe (half-blown?) form of the illness.

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Continuing yesterday’s post about 15 factors that can influence your osteoporosis risk, I’d like to leave you with the rest of the list. Later I will address depression in the elderly in more depth!

7. fractured a bone as an adult - simple actions (stepping off the curb too hard) can lead to early fractures

8. calcium intake - if your calcium intake is chronically low, this is a problem; for adolescents it’s especially important to get enough to reach their genetic potential for peak bone mass

9. physical activity - weight bearing activity increases your bone mass, you can increase your bone mass with training. It takes a an increase in bone mass density of 3-5% to decrease your fracture rate by 20-30%, but a +/- 5% bone mass change is huge.

10. protein - there is a link here still being studied, but it has been shown before that an increase in protein shows there may be a loss of calcium in your urine.

11. alcohol & smoking – can decrease your bone mass

12. excess caffeine – caffeine in very high doses increases your calcium loss in urine

13. medication can weaken bones – steroids, anticonvulsants, synthetic thyroid hormones, and antidepressants

14. vitamin D – is absolutely necessary for calcium absorption. Sunlight will increase the manufacture of vitamin D in your body (10-15 minutes a day on face & arms WITHOUT sunscreen). Homebound people, persons over the age of 70, those living in the northern US/Canada and people who don’t eat enough dairy or vitamin D supplemented foods are recommended to supplement with tablets.

15. vitamin K – helps blood coagulate and is needed for the beginning of bone mineralization

I have elderly family members who deal with depression due in part to physical ailments. Today I’d like to address a big depression cause in elderly that not many people think about osteoporosis.

Osteoporosis is a disease of low bone mass characterized by weakened and porous bones that have an increased risk of fracture.

* peak bone mass is reached at about 30-years-old
* women lose about 30-50% of their bone mass while men lose 20-30%
* 1/6 of women will fracture a hip in their lifetime
* Most common fracture sites are wrist, hip & vertebrae
* 20% of individuals (mostly male) will die within a year from fracture related complications - a lot of this is due to becoming depressed once you’re unable to function at your previous ability. These 20% are oftentimes elderly suicide deaths.
* 60% of falls occur in the home

There are 15 factors that may effect your bone mass:
1. gender - women have a higher risk as men have stronger bones and more base bone mass overall

2. age - over the age of 65 your risk increases, bone loss is gradual but for women, it speeds up during menopause, the full effects are felt later in life, even though they begin early-on

3. early menopause (or long periods of ammenorrhea) - menopause depletes your stores of estrogen, without estrogen, osteoclasts (holes dug in your bones) are more active than the osteoblasts (refilling of those bone holes), testosterone decrease also effects men’s bone mass

4. frame size - thin, small-framed body generally means you have a lower peak bone mass

5. ethnicity - African Americans normally have a heavier skeleton therefore a higher peak bone mass, Caucasian & Asians have a lower bone density

6. family history - especially if it’s a mom/dad/sibling with history of fractures

There are days that I struggle to get out of bed and function lately. This scares me … I’m doing a lot of thinking and praying this week before I jump right back on ‘em, but it’s in the back of my head. This morning, while I was struggling to get up, I started forming a list of 10 reasons I should get out of bed … I thought I would share them with you!

1. It look sunny outside. I should get some vitamin D. The sunshine is good for me. (I opened ALL the blinds today to let the natural light into my house.)

2. No one is going to make tea for me and bring it to me in bed, so I have to get up and make it for myself. Dangit.

3. Laying in bed feeling sorry for myself is going to do anything but make me feel MORE sorry for myself. And as I was laying there, I got to thinking about the fact that I have very little to feel sorry about!

4. The postman doesn’t deliver my mail to the front door, I’ve got to get up to get paid.

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If you Google health information, you have the option of 110,000,000 different links to choose from. Google-ing mental health information and your results are a little more specific, but still leave you with 70,800,000 links! 110 million links? 70 million links? Where do you go to get information that you trust from experts? Where do you go when you’re looking to meet someone who deals with the same generalized anxiety disorder or the premenstrual induced migraines that you live with?

You go to WEGO Health!

You sign up***,
You read and post on the forums,
You see what sites the experts recommend and you can rest assured that you are being provided with the best health content there is on the internet.

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Today, Thursday October 11th is not only National Coming Out Day, it’s National Depression Screening Day. Take a moment to educate yourself on depression here. Statistics show that 9.5% of the population lives with depression, this means that one in every ten people you know, encounter, ride the train with or work near, live their life daily with symptoms such as:

Depressed mood & other emotional problems including: persistent sadness, inappropriate crying, feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, emptiness, misery or guilt, a loss of confidence, loss of interest in activities previously enjoyed, sluggishness, agitation, irritability, being restless, lack of energy or being tired, thoughts of death or suicide, anxiety, despair worsening at night or suicide attempts.

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Last week I spent some time interviewing a long-time friend of mine. Diana Lee and I have known one another for years. We met while planning our weddings and immediately bonded over wedding stress leading to greater pain in our lives (men, and physical pain, I’m sure!). Not only did Di design my header for Mental & Emotional Health (look up there, you see that beautiful thing?), she did it for my About Portland, OR as well.

Diana writes her own blog at Somebody Heal Me. Sometimes she writes about her struggle to find proper preventative medications for her chronic migraines, sometimes she shares the news, sometimes she makes us giggle with stories about her yoga-posing cat! I subscribe to the biopsychosocial model of healthcare (where everything is related and you can’t heal a piece without addressing the whole) I couldn’t just interview Di about her depression or her migraines, I had to merge them. What blossomed was an informative and candid piece of writing I’m proud to share with you all.

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300: a great movie. I enjoyed it. *nods*

300: the year the year the city of Split is built.

300: how many more hits I need in September to break my March record! Pass the word on, people!

I’m in a funk today. I’m overwhelmed, stressed out, not laughing, and just not myself. *le sigh*

I think it’s because of the major change in my life lately but I’m not sure it’s 100% that. I haven’t seen MamaDee in almost two weeks and I miss her. I am going to see her on Sunday, but still that’s been too long. School has me stressed out, I’ve had a lot of random little things to do this week and have had some snafus pop up with regards to school. I am thinking about finding a part-time job on top of everything, but with this week being SO stressful, I don’t know if that’s a smart idea!

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